As founder of the New Superwoman community, a multi-six figure entrepreneur, and mom of three with my fourth child on the way, I’m often asked what does it mean to be a New Superwoman and how can you actually “have it all” anyway?
I’ll start by sharing how to define it for yourself and then share the #1 key to unleashing your own New Superwoman in your business and your life.
For me, it began as a blessing in disguise, when my own definition of the New Superwoman was born.
I was completely overwhelmed, overworked, exhausted and frustrated.
After many months of working tons of hours in building my business from home and barely scraping by, I got waken up by a phone call in the middle of the night from the emergency room. My oldest son had been admitted.
He was visiting his biological dad at the time so he wasn’t home and I was shocked to learn he had taken some pills and wasn’t doing well.
Everything stopped for me in that moment.
My heart sank and for a few minutes everything stood still while I silently prayed to God that he would be okay and that God would show me the way to equip me to handle this situation.
After hanging up the phone, I suddenly realized how I had kept myself so busy trying to make a living that I wasn’t living.
I was in a daze everyday trying to do as much as I could with my never ending to-do list.
I asked myself, “What’s more important?…that I got a few more items checked off my to-do list OR that I was present with life and the gifts that I had already been blessed with like my husband, kids, family, clients, friends….?
The answer was very clear.
I wasn’t alone. I am not the Source.
I am a child of God and have been given gifts to care for and share.
It was in that question that I got immediate clarity that what I really wanted was to create a business and life filled with Peace, Playfulness and Prosperity.
That was the beginning of a journey I would go on to live that.
It’s with clarity of what you really want, that you can actually “have it all.”
So to define the New Superwoman meant instead of trying to be all things to everyone, which is not even possible, it meant taking a stand for what I wanted to design and align with for myself.
It meant taking care of me in order to overflow to others.
It meant Self-Love.
Self-Love is #1 key of the New Superwoman.
In order to unleash this very special unstoppable, powerful, nurtured, confident, grounded, renewed woman called the New Superwoman, she must show herself love on a daily basis.
You may be thinking, “I love myself already, I just need help!”
Well, stay with me here. I thought that too until I began to discover where my life showed me differently.
I teach women entrepreneurs how to show self-love to themselves through visioning, honoring their feminine design, through their relationships, with money, with the structure of their business, and how to design a life filled with all of their most deepest desires expressed. These elements are all part of the New Superwoman Pathway but it begins with awareness.
The first step to make a shift with anything is awareness. If you don’t see there’s a problem, then there’s nothing to shift.
I invite you to begin noticing by making a list of everything you believe may be going wrong right now.
What are you tired of? What bothers you right now?
Make a list of these items.
Then look at this list and see what part you play in the situation. In other words, where can you take responsibility for any part of it?
Here’s an example:
One of the big annoyances I used to have is when I was busy doing things around the house and I would notice my husband relaxing on the couch.
I remember how annoyed I was because I thought, with all the things to do around the house, how could he possibly be relaxing, he should be getting up and helping me.
In this example, where could I take responsibility in this?
Well for one, I never even asked him to help me. Secondly, I did have a choice to take a few minutes to relax myself but chose to do more work instead which is what actually made me feel so resentful.
The truth is I was mad because he was doing what I wanted to do but I wasn’t giving myself permission to have it.
In this awareness of the problem, and thinking about how I could take responsibility, I could then make a new choice to love myself enough to give myself a break. I also realized how much power I really had to change my life overall.
Then I started to shift areas everywhere because of this new awareness of looking for any challenges and shifting them. I began to show love to myself through the daily shifts of turning my life around.
And what I learned is it all boiled down to love.
You can ask yourself the questions I asked myself and continue to ask myself.
- Do I love myself enough to take space each day to nurture me and connect to my higher power?
- Do I love myself enough to be gentle with the words I use and think in my mind towards myself regularly?
- Do I love myself enough to put my needs first so I am replenished in service to others?
- Do I love myself enough to express my true and deep thoughts?
- Do I love myself enough to pay myself first (after tithing to my Source) with the revenue that comes into my business?
- Do I love myself enough to get plenty of rest and nourishment each day?
- Do I show love to myself through doing things I enjoy every day?
- Do I show love to myself by forgiving myself of mistakes and being compassionate?
- Do I show love to myself by honoring supportive and healthy boundaries in my marriage, with kids, family, colleagues, team members and clients?
- Do I show love in how I dress and take physical care of myself?
These are some great questions to ask yourself and notice where you may be able to make a shift.
In noticing, create your own definition of what “having it all” means for you and how you can show love towards yourself to tap into your own New Superwoman.
You have everything you need inside to “have it all” in your business and life. Love yourself enough to give that gift to yourself.
Sending love to you now and pray that you tap into the power that comes from self-love.
For more tips and training from Maribel Jimenez on tapping into your New Superwoman, you can access the New Superwoman Gift Pack here at www.TheNewSuperwoman.com/gifts